Relationship

Balanced Support

My friend and I were exchanging some stories with one another about our frustrations with our significant others when it occurred to me what I valued or even wanted in a relationship. I have never  been perfect when it comes to what to do in relationships, or even what a good relationship exactly looks like. Truth it I don't think that a perfect relationship exists. There is always something that is not going to go 100% right all the time. It might be distance, you two may not always see eye to eye, you might have an argument or two, or that person might just push your buttons when you don't need them to. The main thing to keep in mind is your importance in your relationship.

To me I have learned that the one thing I expect from my relationships, is RESPECT. We may not always agree on everything and they could drive me up one wall and down the other, but I need to know that even if we don't agree you respect my feelings, my aspirations, and my wants in life. Along with respect comes SUPPORT. Without support I would feel like what I wanted in life wasn't important, and personally it makes me become distant with my significant other. In addition to that I expect an EQUALLY INVOLVED relationship. That means the relationship is a 2-way street, not a one way road. If one person is always about themselves, they can't expect the other to hold all the weight of the relationship up. Lastly for me, yes the list is short but it's quality over quantity for me, is TRUST. Without trust, any strain or issue that arises in the relationship could be disastrous. What is the point of the relationship if you can't trust the person you're with?

This is just what I base my relationships off of because to me these are the essentials of a relationship. Without this sort of foundation, you might not even get to talk about the other little details that make a relationship work. Just food for thought.

Siblings need love too 

 That's right folks. My sister and I attend the same university right now so I see her daily, but it was great getting to catch up with my mom, dad, and brother also. My family may not be perfect but we're just fine with how we are. We accept everyone's flaws and still love each other just the same.

Over break we revisited a family tradition we neglected as we got older. When we were much younger, by younger I was probable under 10, we would always go to Christmas Candy Lane at Hershey Park, in Hershey, PA. We would go for the lights, the reindeer (including Rudolph of course), and Santa (had to make sure he knew what I wanted). It was weird going back now at the ages of 21, 19, and 15. Although the magic of racing one another to see Santa first was gone, we found a new magic in recalling anything that we could as we walked through the amusement park. We extended the tradition's to mine and my sister's boyfriends, my sisters quad mate and her boyfriend, and my sister's other two Dutch roommates. It was also pretty neat to see all of them experience Christmas Candy Lane for the first time. It's enjoyable when you can share your family with friends. It makes life a lot easier and the ever challenging balancing act seems like a piece of cake.

My sister, my brother, and myself in front of the Milton Hershey statue inside of the park.

It's important to keep family relationships strong. You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family. At the end of the day (unless you have a really bad home life) your family is always there for you. Sure you might fight, argue, disagree, or anything like that, but usually it's because members in a family know the HOT BUTTON(S). Sometimes words can hurt but depending on what is said, it's human instinct to defend when attacked. Love and be thankful for the family you have this holiday season and remember usually it's just because they love you.

One of those days

It's about a week before Thanksgiving break and until I get to see my boyfriend again. Usually I'm not the type to post about 'my boyfriend this' or 'my boyfriend that,' but that's because in all honesty, I'm probably the only one who cares and that's perfectly fine. But today is just one of those days that I am thinking about him more than the usual. (Probably because my roommate's is over and they're watching movies.) 

My boyfriend is a pretty cool person. He's 22 and a full time student as well, but he graduates this winter. He was a student athlete too, which is how we met. We were both at a volunteer day, where we got to show the children in the community what athletics were like in college and what our sports entailed. A few of my fellow field hockey teammates and I volunteered to take the first shift of the day. He was there volunteering with the football team and some of his teammates. I saw him and couldn't help but stare. Two of my teammates said that they knew him and my first thought was "of course you do." But I had sworn off football players at that point (too many fumbles prior). Anyway we athletes, had to attend each others stations. When it was my turn to demonstrate my sport's station, there he was trying to one up me. So naturally when it was his turn to demonstrate, I had to one up him and amazing catching abilities and touch down celebration dance.  All in good fun of course. I guess he couldn't resist my killer skills, because shortly after my friends/teammates had given him my number and told him I thought he was hot. Embarrassed then but now grateful, I'm glad they gave him my number. Without that I don't know if we would be where we are today. I'd like to think so but you never know. I believe things happen for a reason. 

So whatever the reason they gave him my number, it doesn't matter because they did, and so far it's been great. I'm looking forward to seeing him over my short break coming up and again over the holidays. Until then, there's this.

Intro

I am no stranger to the story of the princess and the frog. Seems to be a common fable we all find out as we go from that first crush to that IT person. You find one, looks great. You get to know them, it seems better. Then you kiss them and you find out they're still a frog.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect. As a matter of fact it's probably my picker most of the time that's off, but at the end of all of my relationships I'm glad they happen. Whether we end on bad terms, hoping to never see one another, or parting as friends, the guys I date teach me lessons and prepare me for my dream guy.

Right now I'm in a relationship and have been in the same relationship for 2 and a half years. It's been one of the strongest and most positive relationships I've had. We have ups and downs but so does everyone else, single or not!